Until now, couples facing the dilemma of deciding whether or not to stay in an unhappy marriage had three options: individual or couples therapy, separation, or divorce. Should I Stay or Go? provides these couples with a fourth option–the Controlled Separation (CS). Should I Stay or Go? explains CS and shows how it can be used as a tool to help couples make the best decision for both partners.

Should I Stay Or Go? : How Controlled Separation (CS) Can Save Your Marriage

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For twenty years, Sharyn Wolf, a practicing psychotherapist and “relationship expert,” has helped revitalize the marriages of countless couples. But while she was being interviewed on Oprah and 48 hours to talk about her nationally bestselling books that instructed millions on how to flirt, find mates, and “stay lovers for life,” she was going home every night to a dark secret: a totally failed marriage of her own to a good man she just couldn’t leave.

In Love Shrinks, Sharyn tells the mindbending—and yet deeply relatable—story of her (third!) marriage. In anecdotes that range from poignant to horrifying to side-splittingly funny to heart-rending, she explains how it is possible for two good people to make each other totally miserable and yet still be unable to leave. In fifteen years of marriage, she and her husband had sex twice. Despite the fact that Sharyn was a national bestselling self-help author, her husband couldn’t bring himself to read a single one of her books. Communication between them had failed so utterly that the simple domestic activity of buying a couch together escalated to disastrous proportions. Yet through it all, they stay together—even though neither one knows why. Sharyn ends each chapter with a touching story of why she could never bear to leave this man who made her so unhappy.

Painted against the backdrop of her psycotherapy practice, real-life illustrative cases of her patients, and the wacky story of career trajectory, Sharyn turns her analytical eye on herself and her husband and deftly depicts a marriage on its long last legs. The result is this beautiful and sad tapestry of a hidden and omnipresent human condition. You will not be able to put her book down.

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Communication is one of the biggest challenges faced by people with Asperger’s Syndrome (AS), yet an Asperger marriage requires communication more than any other relationship. Thousands of people live in Asperger marriages without knowing the answers to important questions such as ‘What behaviours indicate that my spouse has AS?’ ‘Is it worthwhile to get a diagnosis?’ ‘Is there hope for improvement?’ Katrin Bentley has been married for 18 years. Since receiving her husband’s diagnosis of AS, their marriage has improved substantially. They learnt to accept each other’s different approaches to life and found ways to overcome problems and misunderstandings. Today, they are happily married and able to communicate effectively. “Alone Together” shares the struggle of one couple to rescue their marriage. It is uplifting and humorous, and includes plenty of tips to making an Asperger marriage succeed. This book offers couples hope, encouragement and strategies for their own marriages.

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In today’s complex and on the go society, marital problems are nearly as likely as having brown eyes. In fact, every marriage goes through its ups and downs. Many times marital problems are a combination of three different types of problems, including individual problems (such as low self-esteem), outside influences (such as a car accident), and then the most traditional of couple problems (such as a mother in law that does not like you). No matter how complex and unique you feel your marital problems are, do not despair. There are ways that you can save your marriage. The most important thing that you and your spouse can do in order to save your marriage is to participate in therapy. It is vital that you participate in both individual therapy and couple’s therapy. The individual therapy will help each of you process and get over the individual issues that are underlying to your marital problems. The couple’s therapy will then help you both learn how to communicate with each other and how to share your individual feelings and opinions with each other. Though therapy will be uncomfortable for you and your spouse in the beginning, soon you will enjoy having the neutral party there to help you properly communicate to each other. You must remember to go into therapy with an open mind.

Delve into the dramatic impact Asperger Syndrome can have on the complex world of adult interpersonal relationships. Psychologist Kathy Marshack shares poignant true stories based on her own life and the lives of her clients, focusing on how partners/spouses of someone with AS can take back their own life and find true meaning and happiness. The author discusses these sensitive issues and shows readers how to take control of their lives and grow away from dysfunctional behavior and dysfunctional relationships. Each chapter closes with a series of Lessons Learned that recap the main points of the chapter and offer new ways to look at these very unique challenges.

Life With a Partner or Spouse With Asperger Syndrome: Going over the Edge? Practical Steps to Savings You and Your Relationship

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Small groups of couples can learn important skills and revitalize their marriages with this fun and unique approach. ‘You will love growing together while going out together.’ -John Gray Author of Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus Remember back to your dating days—the excitement you felt? Now you can reclaim that same spark, connection, and creativity in your marriage through ten intentional, memory-making dates. This proven approach to relationship growth is low-key, purposeful, effective, easy, and fun , and will help you * Communicate better * Put the sizzle back in sex * Process anger and resolve conflicts * Develop spiritual intimacy * Appreciate your differences * Balance busy lifestyles * And much more! Enjoy your dates alone as a couple or start your own 10 Great Dates group in your church or community. You probably already know 5-6 couples who could benefit from time-out to build their marriage and enrich their relationship with 10 Great Dates. See 10 Great Dates DVD Curriculum for everything you need to lead this effective, husband-friendly and fun program.

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This best-selling book may be small, but it’s potent medicine for your marriage. Family physician, biblical counselor, and certified sex therapist Dr. Ed Wheat has helped thousands of troubled couples improve their love lives and build happier marriages with his unique counseling methods. In How to Save Your Marriage Alone, his understanding and candid advice–based squarely on concepts from the Bible–can transform a marriage even when only one of the partners learns the principles of building love and applies them consistently.

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When Love Dies is a refreshing, honest look at one woman’s journey to the edge of divorce, her commitment to stay even though she didn’t feel like it, and eventual rediscovery of the love that she thought died.

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John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over many years. Here is the culmination of his life’s work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Packed with practical questionnaires and exercises, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert

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